Anonymous asked:

Is there ANY circumstance in which you would shoot with a trans woman?

lilycade answered:

Behind the camera? Sure, if I was hired to do so. Although I prioritize my own stuff, I’m definitely available for hire as crew to work on other people’s projects, as is my wife (we usually work as a team). As I’ve said before, I was a cam op on a TS/girl scene with Kara Price and Juliette Stray and I’ve had trans/genderqueer people in non-sex roles in a movie or two. I don’t have any desire to put trans women in sex roles in lesbian porn. I’ve actually worked very, very hard for my opportunities as a director and I see no reason to squander them on somebody’s else’s political fight rather than my own artistic goals.

In front of the camera? Unequivocally no. I’ve said this a fuck-jillion times…

The nexus of desire and profit in porn is complicated. Like every human, there are things that turn me on and turn me off about different people. Some of those things are physical and some are personality/energy based. You’ve probably heard me say that I find something attractive about everyone I work with and focus on that. I do. Most of the sex I have on camera is pretty damn good - but I’m not always super into my costar and she’s not always super into me. I’m super into porn, though, and I really like getting paid for sex. Sometimes, the chemistry isn’t naturally there and I have to manufacture it. I can almost always show a girl a pretty good time, but it’s not uncommon for me to work with girls who aren’t particularly into women. A lot of the sex I have on camera, for money, wouldn’t necessarily happen off camera, for free. On a good day, porn feels like getting one over on the universe. (I can’t believe I just got paid for that!) On a bad day, it feels like hard work. I’ve done scenes with lazy, disinterested performers with whom I had to use every fucking trick in my book to get them to open up and be real with me, or to get a scene done at all.

What I don’t want is a situation (and fuck, man, I’ve seen enough of this to never want it to happen to anyone) where it feels like a violation, where it feels like selling out, where porn is a fucking record of my fucking regret, out there for the world to consume. I have definitely fucked people I didn’t particularly WANT to fuck, but I’m not ok with fucking people that I fundamentally DON’T want to fuck if that makes sense. There’s a spectrum of desire from “no” to “whatever” to “I’d die to fuck you” right? I’ll round the “whatever” up to “yes” but I will not fuck the “no”. I don’t always get to pick my scene partners, but I can pick the “kind” of scene partner I work with.

People get on me about that time I backed out of a scene with Drew Deveaux. I felt incredibly bad about that - I really value my professionalism and I had never (and since then have never) flaked on a scene in my entire career - but I was deeply uncomfortable with the idea of having sex with Drew. My response to the situation wasn’t great. I got really drunk and passed out, then woke up the next morning and wrote Drew this histrionic email about what an awful person I was. Looking back on it now, I am glad I didn’t do the scene, since I really didn’t want to, but I wish I had just pretended to be sick.

Look, I don’t want to fuck men or any kind of male bodies regardless of identity (and save it, hunty, your feelings don’t make your penis actually a female reproductive organ anymore that it makes that “otherkin” over there actually a cat. Sex and gender are different). So I don’t. I’ve left a lot of money on the table on by remaining girl/girl only.  I have turned down some very serious offers to shoot boy/girl or to escort for men. Money isn’t my central motivator.

During this whole stupid shitstorm, I had a whole bunch of people tell me that my being honest about my sexual desires was bigoted. That being solely interested, sexually, in women with female bodies was bigoted. That I needed to “examine” my desires, as if I haven’t done that my whole fucking life. It’s profoundly stupid. I’m a 29 year old lesbian who has grown up in public in a lot of ways - I went from being this callow butch college grad to a prolific performer, multiple AVN award nominee, multiple Feminist Porn Award winner and successful director all while people watched both my successes and my failures. I have taken a lot of shit from a lot of people and I don’t back down. I know — I really, fundamentally know — who the fuck I am and what the fuck I want.



don’t care that you prefer pussy to dick, your wording is transphobic and gross

im not familiar with drew deveaux or this person at all but can you/someone tell me what a better way to explain this answer would be? 

like, how could this same thought be expressed just as well without being transphobic and gross?

not defending the author or arguing anyones point i just can’t think of any other way to put what they said

"I have a very explicit genitalia preference and it is only vaginas" 

I feel like having a preference for certain genitalia in a partner is okay. but defending yourself with shit like “I don’t want to fuck men or any kind of male bodies regardless of identity” is a bit offensive considering the question was specifically about trans women

The bit after that in parentheses is EXTREMELY offensive. The use of the word “hunty” and comparing transwomen to people who think they are cats is super condescending, not to mention just plain fucked up. 

yes, sex and gender are different and not wanting to fuck someone with a penis doesn’t make you evil or bigoted, but this explanation was still transphobic and gross.

also i’m pretty sure all the gloating about how “i’m so good at porn” was really unnecessary